lol...i finally get it!!! i watched phoebe be an unwelcoming bag to thomas when she got home and i watched thomas's feelings get hurt. and then i watched jack wandering around trying to pick a comfy spot and i watched cedric tell her to buzz off and pick somewhere else. unkindness, unfriendliness, selfishness, prickly tempers, bad moods, rudeness and bad manners are universal. they aren't just human traits, the animals have them too. why have i never figured this out before? i have just reduced us all to a common denominator...i feel free and i think it is funny. we aren't so different after all.