i pretty much suck at games, except scrapple and crib. i suppose i could be good at others if i really wanted to, but i don't. there is a very soft unspoken game in our medical system called "the process" lot's of time and money and jobs depend on it. if the government did a study on the actual costs involved with "the process" they might be surprized at how many people could actually get off treatment waiting lists and get the help they need when they need it if they started limiting process funding and allocating those dollars to treating actual patients instead.
my daughter is a teacher. apparently they have their own game too. i have to admit that when she was talking to me the other night, i quit listening to the actual specifics of what she was saying once i recognized the underlying game. she is too new to teaching to get all the rules yet but she's a smart girl...if she stays in teaching (which she is questioning right now), she'll learn how not to get sucked into the game.
rescue has a gaming commission too. easy to recognize if you listen to what people have to say. i listen far enough to hear "player" then i find something else to do (like write about it instead).
it took me a very long time how to learn to win the game. don't play. esp. if you suck at it, cuz i really do.
i am so very good at many, many things. i am a good and competent and knowledgable nurse. i am a good and competent and knowledgable rescuer. i do the talk and i walk the walk and my patients and the animals here are well cared for. no need to pretend anything. it is all standing right here in the light for anyone to see. and that is what i told my daughter the other day.
there are 2 kinds of power. personal power comes from inside you. it is based on self determination, self evaluation, and self actualization. it comes from within and it is not dependent on others. the other kind of power comes from the game. and you cannot play the game alone, you need others to participate with you either as team mates or the opposition or the game just isn't all that fun. my daughter will hopefully never learn to play the game. right now she is honest, has integrity and has the potential to develop the vision to be a truly great teacher to her students. as long as she doesn't get sucked into the game and risk becoming a loser. she is young and sensitive and a little unsure and fitting in and belonging is so important when you are young.
here's me hoping she has enough of her mean ole stubborn mom in her to walk alittle ways alone. because like me, one day she too will find the right people to walk along with too.
have i said today that the people at saints are the very, very best!