i think the thing i least expected in rescue was....
Carol · Nov. 11, 2009
how many different ways there were to actually piss people off. rescue has always followed the flavor of the month mentality...so and so is popular today and a moron, a lunatic, a monster sometime tomorrow. it is the nature of the beast..highly competitive (but we will deny this), highly varied (but everyone is supposed to do everything the same way or at least the way we think) and sickenly moralistic (there are more high horses in rescue than there are podiums from which to speak...altho with the inventions of blogs, the podiums are catching up)
obviously..i like the invention of blogs....a constant personal podium for me. it is not my fault some folks actually read it.
anyway..you piss people off with a blog...but hey, that's just a given. there are other ways that i had no idea about...like.....i like it when folks deliver donations in person...it means i can thank them in person..or someone can, depending on who was here. i honestly did not know you were supposed to thank folks in person AND send a thank you card. i thought.. a personal oh yay, thank you so much, this is so kind and great was sufficient and then i could move on to something else that needed doing around here.
not so...i suck at the etiquette of rescue...it is lots of personal thanks and follow up with a personally written thank you card.
shit..why is everything so complicated...i don't have time for complicated, get the card, think of a new way to say thank you that you did already say, write it out neatly...buy a stamp, drive to the post office to mail the secondary thanks away.
i get this is nice..but really do folks want nice so badly that it takes so much time away from the real work here?
how come i don't need nice thank you notes to keep me helping out around here?
i will tell you why...because what i do here is too important to me to be thanked for. would you thank me for caring well for my kids? of course not..and they don't thank me either. they know i absolutely had to, just like i absolutely have to care well for the animals here.
love me, hate me, thank me or don't, flavor of the month or flavorful not.....i give what i give, where ever i choose to give it.
we send out thank you cards with the tax receipts. we send out a heart felt christmas thank you letter for helping us to get thru the year.
i didn't think to send out thank you letters to the really nice folks who drop off donations of food, blankets, paper towels, toys and bleach..i actually thought that knowing these items would make things easier and nicer around here, would be thanks enough.
so i never considered that this would piss some people off.
i also never considered how much personalities would play a role here. different personalities need different things...luckily most of the core group of saints need the exact same thing....a happy well cared for group of homeless senior animals feeling comfortable at home. i didn't consider that liking me or not made a helluvalot of difference. or liking each other mattered all that much too.... altho really, how could you NOT like someone who cared for the animals as much as you do?
i never thought that just being successful in building a well earned and good reputation would put you at such risk...but in a lot of different ways, it does.
i never thought everyone would automatically agree with me...but i was surprised that it sometimes became a very big problem because they did not.
and i never thought in a thousand years that the truly lovely (but sometimes pain in ass) saints animals could be penalized by the professed animal lovers out there...but they are.
i never really thought that adopted or foster animals homes would forget where that animal came from and who stretched to get them in here and struggled to pay their bills...i thought they would be our biggest supporters but in reality mostly once they go and the bills are all paid...the rest here are forgotten.
i never thought that people who sent animals here would sometimes dislike us so much..that came as a real surprise..here care for this animal for the rest of its life, but you totally suck.
and this is the thing about rescue....it is about the animals...but it also is not. and i did not expect that either.
it is about hard and lonely times, conflict, hurt feelings, disagreements that if not really careful can turn into wars. it is about sucking up and letting go of the shitty stuff the next time the phone rings and making room for the next one you apparently are going to suck at.
it is about balancing on a pedastle and then gasping for breath in the mud...it is about being forgotten when life carries on.
and it is about no matter what the flavor is this particular month happens to be...getting the work done, squeezing the hopeless in, paying the bills, and keep moving on....is what you promised the animals when you started regardless of everything else.
bottom line...i can afford to be wrong once in awhile...i can afford to make a mistake.....i can even afford to not be not very perfect...but the question becomes....can our beloved saints?
i really haven't changed much over the years except..i actually have gotten much better at caring for these guys. but in the world of rescue, this does not matter either.
it is the non animal stuff that really matters..isn't that a shame?