here is the thing about headaches and little sleep at saints...
Carol · Nov. 14, 2010
first i get bitchy, then i am close to tears..it is one of those inevitable things.
i am kind of sitting on the cusp of both right now so please forgive the not so nice or not very understanding tone of this post..but this is another reality of rescue, bad days affect me just like they affect everyone else and i can and will eventually scream.
the thing i want to get off my chest is one i have been keeping safely bottled up inside for many long years. it is one of those things that need to be said..but is pretty much impossible to say in any kind of gentle or polite way. so today i am just going to be blunt.
Don't be a Dick Head.
i am absolutely fed up with the numbers of senior animals who come my way because the "man" of the house is a dick head. i don't know which neandrethral cave they grew up in but we are now in the year 2010 so it is time to grow and become a modern man. men still should protect their families and do all they can to ensure that those in their care are happy and healthy and well. and please don't forget the happy part..real men do not inflict impatient, selfish and self serving tendencies on the rest of their families..that would be something that dick heads do. real men care about the happiness of their wives and children and actually learn patience and how to problem solve. so if your wife and children's most beloved cat occasionally pees on the couch..threatening to take said cat and dump by the side of the road somewhere is in fact a childish and bully type behavior to get what YOU want. it seems to me it is a good way to get resentment and anger directed at you for the rest of your life. who actively seeks to hurts their family just to win the battle over an old leaky pet?
i think a "real" man could figure a few things out..like breaking the hearts of those that you love is pretty damn petty and mean. a "real" man could add in his head...a 15 year old cat will probably be dead in another year or two without the man pissing off or hurting his family and since the couch is already ruined he has plenty of time and can save up and buy a nicer one pretty soon anyway. and a "real' man knows damn well that a small tarp can be purchased and staple gunned to the couch for less then ten bucks total..toss over a decent looking quilt and wash it every day and while patiently and kindly waiting for that much beloved peeing cat's life to naturally end... he can still sit on a nice and clean couch when he gets home from work if he doesn't mind switching the used quilt for a cleaner one.
i am so tired of animals coming in here with a flood of tears from the rest of the family because the man of the house pulls rank and wins.
if the "man" of the house can sometimes be a royal pain in the butt and difficult to live with but still everyone else has to suck it up..then the "real "man is willing to accept the imperfections of others in his family and try to help problem solve solutions that don't cause heartache and pain..not to their wives, not to their children and not to the animals taken into their family heart and home.
not only are animals NOT disposable...but values like respect, responsibility, love, committment and trust within families should not be disposable either.
saints welcomes another new, old, dick head victim, beloved family pet.