we are a thoughtless and careless species
Carol · Jan. 15, 2017
and this is why animals and humans suffer. we see the world from our tiny one sided perspective and expect the rest of the world to see it the same.
lets look at something as universal as death.
one person wrote on our FB page asking why did i kill him, why didn't i just hold kobe and let him go on his own? she clearly was upset because she went on to say that she was disgusted and would no longer support us.
this is not a bad person or a person who trolls internet sites looking to cause trouble..this is a person who believes that holding someone dying in your arms is kind, gentle, loving and that ending their lives artificially is actually cruel and mean.
believe it or not, i am not mad or upset by the comment..in animal rescue you run up against differing opinions, differing experiences, differing perceptions, differing wants and needs constantly.
and it has been a really long journey to remove personal agendas from my own decision making.
think about how many life endings, i have been privy to..both human and animals...hundreds upon hundreds.
and to this day, 20 years later, i am no more an expert on life or death than any of you.
what i do know is this...and it has more to do with attitude.
death is a profound experience. it is also a highly personal experience for the being who is ending his or her life. all of the people, sadness, judgements and drama that sometimes surround death are carried outside of the dying beings circle of ending life. this is their uniquely profound moment of their life ending, not yours and not mine.
imagine at the very moment of giving birth, another uniquely singular profound personal moment when every cell in your body, every conscious thought and feeling is focused on one single thing..getting that baby out of your body, safely. imagine on the periphery people sobbing, arguing, jockeying for the best seat, holding and hugging your body, telling you how much you are loved and needed.
is this fair? is this respectful? is this even comfortable while you are trying to concentrate on the work at hand and trying to get thru it..trying to just breathe?
who would these things be done for? who do they provide love and support for?
we are not always able to see past our own childish fantasies and needs. we often put ourselves before a really important thing because we simply don't see that when a life is ending, it actually is not about me.
i am comfortable that kobe's final day of living was one of care and caring. i am comfortable that kobe's final moments were respectful and had dignity.
whatever others judgements or drama's or beliefs are have nothing to do with kobe..those are human things.
kobe lived well loved and cared for, kobe died at nineteen years old....whatever life and death meant to kobe, he is free now.
in a dream world, every single person would get to write the exact kind of script for every death they experience or see. i live in reality where end of life to all living creatures is their personal ending and a unique journey belonging to one... not many.
our journey is with continuing with living, hopefully also filled with respect, compassion and dignity especially around another's ending.